3 months ago the job that I really enjoyed ended and I found myself struggling with the prospect of being out of work and out of a weekly wage.  I was also studying at the time, but I started falling behind as finding a job became my priority and focus.

I mentioned on the TCI Facebook page that I may need some coaching to get me through it and it was Jane who responded to my call for help.

Jane’s approach is undemanding, it was up to me how much I wanted to change my current situation, she was simply here to guide me.  Through Jane’s coaching I have been able to change my perspective on how I see myself which wasn’t great due to my confidence taking a beating.  Jane brought me to cause, helping me to see my actions and how they did not match what I was wanting.  Through being coached by Jane I have moved forward on running my own Reiki Practice, believing that I can do it!  It was not only Jane’s coaching ability that helped me, it is her insightfulness, life experience and generous spirit that has lifted mine.  I highly recommend Jane as a Personal Life Coach due to her sincerity and honesty.

Nicole Van't Foort

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Managing Social Anxiety

Social Anxiety is the fear of being in the company of others. This fear can bring on feelings of self-consciousness and being judged.  

These initial responses then lead to feelings of:

  • inadequacy
  • inferiority
  • embarrassment
  • humiliation and
  • depression.

Some of the triggers for social anxiety may include:

  • Being watched        
  • Being the centre of attention
  • Going on a date
  • Making a phone call        
  • Public Speaking
  • Using public toilets
  • School Examinations            
  • Being teased/bullied        
  • Eating/Drinking in public
  • Attending social events

It is the intensity of the feelings that trigger anxiety, such as:

  • Excessive shyness
  • Intense worry
  • Extreme fear
  • Fear of embarrassment or humiliation
  • Fear that others will notice the physical symptoms

Physical Symptoms of Social Anxiety

Whilst not all people experience these, they appear to be the most common physical symptoms of social anxiety:

  • Blushing        
  • Stammer
  • Sweating
  • Upset stomach
  • Dry retching
  • Tightness in chest
  • Fast breathing
  • Muscle twitching in face or limbs

It is not that surprising that individuals who experience social anxiety choose to limit the exposure to triggers, this in turn can lead to a vicious cycle of social isolation and increased feelings of helplessness.

Other behavioural symptoms may include:

  • Avoidance of social situations
  • Stay quiet and hide in the shadows
  • Always with someone else
  • Excessive drinking to boost confidence

Social Anxiety Coaching Intensive Programme

As this is a “feelings” condition, the first step is to understand and make sense of how the brain works. Through education the thinking component of social anxiety is addressed and reframed.

The next step is to change the behaviour by gentle exposure to social settings in a non-threatening environment until the fear trigger is disarmed and the physiological response to stress is reduced.

During the 12 week programme key issues are addressed, either as:

  • a one on one coaching session
  • a live webinar
  • educational resources and
  • after week 7, an invitation to join a small group of people at my coaching room to discuss social anxiety as a weekly support group.

Below is an example of how I will work with you, to ensure your needs are met:

Week 1: The Human Brain and Habit Formation
Week 2: Controlling our response to our feelings.
Week 3: Rewiring your brain to think, feel and be different
Week 4: Letting go…why fighting the symptoms of social anxiety doesn’t work
Week 5: Learning the physiology of relaxation and stress
Week 6: Treating all thoughts as equal, no good, bad or ugly.
Week 7: Join a small (5 or less) weekly meet up group to learn the art of small talk
Week 8: Using humour to break terminal seriousness. We play silly games!!
Week 9: Change your thinking: Change your life
Week 10: Active Listening Skills- taking you out of the equation
Week 11: Seeing life from many perspectives - developing behavioural flexability
Week 12: Love the one you are with – learning gratitude


Contact me today to discuss working together on your managing your social anxiety.